Change Your Mindset
Many things motivate us to put our house up for sale. Sometimes it’s joyful events: a growing family needing more space; empty nesters wanting smaller space to create more freedom for their new normal; a job change that calls for relocation. Sometimes it’s unfortunate events like divorce, job loss, or a health crisis that leaves no choice but to move. Whatever the reason, we face varying degrees of confusion, doubt, chaos, uncertainty, fear and even resentment and pain.
So, why is it important to clear ourselves of limiting or negative beliefs that get in the way of our goals? Because we need to make sure our beliefs surrounding the sale and transition support our purpose and goals in a positive manner. We have all heard or lived the nightmare stories about deals that fall through, agents that don’t communicate, buyers that won’t budge and scam moving companies. The more we listen to these stories and retell them (gossip) the more we secure this belief into our subconcious, thus becoming more likely to recreate these scenarios for ourselves.
Stop yourself from going down that road of fear and negativity and check in! How are you dealing with challenges as they come up? Are you modeling positive responses (not reactions) in front of others, like your children? No need to imprint your children with the belief that the home selling process is grueling and not fair. Wouldn’t it be fun to tell your friends how awesome your experience was because you decided to make it that way?!
Give & Receive
To give and receive is the nature of the ruling forces that govern our earthly experience. What you put out there, you will get back. Start the day in a crabby mood and we have all seen where that gets us. You start by getting out of bed stubbing your toe, then you forget where you left the keys, your coffee isn’t what your ordered and the day snowballs into other events that you create until you catch yourself by realizing that you won’t make it through the day if this keeps up! You stop yourself, take a deep breath and the the energy shifts and the day turns out to be alright after all. Am I right?
Same thing with selling your house. If you are going into this process only thinking about what YOU are going to get out of it…well, it’s gonna be a challenging road. Of course, you may need to make a certain amount of money to make your deserved profit, cover expenses and assist you in moving forward. We want the process to be smooth and for everyone to show up and do their part. But, what’s YOUR part? How are you going to show up for the new owner? Will you be generous with your time in answering their questions and addressing their concerns, or will you feel put-off and aggravated by the hassle? Will you meet them in a fair place or will you stand so firm that you send a negative vibe throughout the whole ordeal, thus creating more hassle for you down the road? What are you willing to give? It’s not all about you and what YOU will get out of this? There has to be give and take. Not just between you and your buyer, but you and your agent, the finance broker, the appraiser, and anyone else you need to work with along the way. The more you see this as a Give and Receive event, the more your experience will be met with clarity, ease and joy. And I’ll bet that you do end up getting what you really want because you were willing to give a little more of yourself, your time, your energy.
Get Real Clear!
Sit with your family members and write out a list of all the POSITIVE aspects you wish to be a part of this transition. Write a list of your intentions for selling this house. Do you want to the buyer to pay their own closing costs, or be a nice family that fits right in with your wonderful neighbors? Perhaps you want new homeowners who will appreciate the hard work and attention to detail you put into the building of this home, or that they love the home as much as you did and that they create beautiful memories here. Do you wish for helpful people to show up to assist you in packing, cleaning and moving? How about desiring that the transactions go smoothly, without misinterpretation or any unexpected expenses!
Be sure to create another list that describes what kind of home you are looking for next and how you want that to play out and support the next phase in your family’s life! Wrap these lists up in a silver ribbon, or place in a silver box, and place them in the northwest area of your home. This will invite helpful people to assist with your intentions.
Always consider all parties involved. Be empathetic to others, bring trustworthy people into your experience, and be forthright. The belief that this process should be arduous and trying is an old belief that needs to be broken down. Create your own way! Make this experience unique to you — make friends and good karma along the way.
With a positive mindset, clarity and a little give and take, your real estate transaction can become a process to write home about!